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Wednesday, April 8, 2009
To the smokers: Help me understand
I'm so frustrated with hubby. He's been a smoker for a long time, and I really detest the habit. He's also talked about quitting for the longest time. Last week he was getting serious about quitting after prices went up significantly. When he ended up with the flu, he was actually so sick that he went 2 days without smoking and so decided he might as well go ahead and quit cold turkey. I thought he was doing really good, and he had a good attitude about it. Last night was the end of day 4 of no smoking. He called me at work last night to tell me that he just couldn't take it anymore and had to smoke. He says that he just can't quit right now and he really wants to try to lose a little weight first. He's been talking about losing some weight for over a year and it still hasn't happened. I just don't understand how you go 4 days without smoking and then you just can't take it anymore. The nicotine is out of your system by then. I'm really trying to understand but I'm must admit that I'm angry. I got my hopes up about this. He says he's not going to smoke as much but I just don't buy that. I think within a few days he'll be smoking as much as he ever was. I'm really disappointed.
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My dad was a smoker and he could never quit, until he got cancer and it was too late.... which is probably not what you wanted to hear. Sorry.
He was an incredibly strong person and he said it was the hardest thing he ever tried to do. I've heard that nicotine is as addictive as heroin (sp).
smoker here...
it really is hard...and a lot of it (after the nicotine is out) is mental.
I've quit a FEW times and I always go back. For me, it also is a control thing, my body, my choice, kind of thing. Stupid, I know because it is also kiling my body.
Good luck to hubby, has he tried using the gum or the patch instead of cold turkey?
For me it was more mental also. I quit when I met my husband 7 years ago. I was going through a lot of changes already and my routine was shook up so I was able to let it go easier. It really is a hard habit but it can be done. He just has to have his mind made up. you can make it up for him, he has to be ready. Good luck.
I meant to say can't make it up obviously!
My husband was diagnosed with COPD last month, which was finally a wake up call for him to quit. He has been having really good luck with "Chantix" he hasn't smoked in almost 2 weeks. & believe me this is a miracle since he basically smoked since he was 13 yrs. old.
Good luck to your husband. I think quitting smoking is more important then losing weight. First quit then lose the weight.
One thing to keep in mind is that it isn't just about the nicotine, it's about the habit. Smoking literally becomes part of your day. For example, for me, one of my "favorite" times to smoke is right after a meal. Smoking while driving, while having a long phone conversation, after watching a favorite show, or finishing a task may all be times a smoker "plans" for. It really becomes part of who you are and it's very hard to let go.
I've quit at least 4 times, each time I got pregnant. I NEVER smoked during pregnancy. So why did I start up again? Sounds so stupid to other people, and it probably is. But, on the other hand, those times I wasn't really doing it for myself, I was doing it for the babies. Plus, my husband continued to smoke, which made the temptation even greater for me after the babies were born. A person really has to quit for him/herself and have the determination to do it, just like many other things, like dieting for example.
I wish your husband the best of luck. My husband and I have also been seriously discussing quitting, but we're not really looking forward to it ;)
I feel your pain. My husband and his best friend both quit on their 30th bdays but my husband couldn't stick with it. It's now seven years later and he still sneaks them. He's tried the patch, hyponosis, etc. The truth is that if he doesn't want to quit, he won't. It's really hard.
i just want you to know that i did grabbed your button and it's now in my Smart Mommy
Thanks!
I appreciate all the comments. I know he feels bad and still wants to quit. I think maybe it's just a bad time because there is a lot going on right now.
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